Cougar Dad's Club

Cougar Convers(at)ions - Dad's Bible Study

Next meeting: Friday, May 18th, 2018, 7:30-8:00am
Location: Karen Vickery office (Lower School main floor)

Questions?  Contact Jason Neff, or 785.383.0927

Study Notes for Friday (5/18/18) meeting

Printable packet:

Study notes.18May18.pdf

READ: John 21:15-19


15 When they had finished breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon, son of John, do you love me more than these?” He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I love you.” He said to him, “Feed my lambs.” 16 A second time he said to him, “Simon, son of John, do you love me?” He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I love you.” He said to him, “Tend my sheep.” 17 He said to him the third time, “Simon, son of John, do you love me?” Peter was grieved because he said to him the third time, “Do you love me?” And he said to him, “Lord, you know everything; you know that I love you.” Jesus said to him, “Feed my sheep. 18 Truly, truly, I say to you, when you were young, you girded yourself and walked where you would; but when you are old, you will stretch out your hands, and another will gird you and carry you where you do not wish to go.” 19 (This he said to show by what death he was to glorify God.) And after this he said to him, “Follow me.” 



PERSONAL MEDITATION - Fr. John Bartunek, from The Better Part


Keep Following Me


“What matters above all is to tend one’s personal relationship with God, with that God who revealed himself to us in Christ.”


– Pope Benedict XVI



Christ the Friend


“Follow me” are the last words that Christ speaks to Peter.  How would he have said them?  Would the tone have been harsh, commanding, military?  Perhaps.  But maybe it was warm, inviting, and excited.  “Follow me, Peter!  I have great things in store for you!  Stick by my side; trust me; do whatever I ask of you, and you will come to share in my glory.”  The heart of Christ is full of hopes for each of us.  First among them is his hope that we will stay close to him even if he leads us down difficult paths, which he will.  Peter and the apostles followed Christ down the path of martyrdom; every Christian must be led by the Lord “where we would rather not go” in one form or another. Otherwise, how could we prove our friendship, our loyalty, and our love?  That’s what Jesus wants – our friendship.  This is the only reason he came to “dwell among us” – to be able to offer his friendship and ask for ours in return.  And he asks for it every day by speaking those same words deep within our hearts in myriad ways, ways that only each one of us can hear, if we keep on listening: “Follow me.”





When Jamie and I were married, I told her I wanted to have 2.5 children; that was the American average, and I figured that was all my patience could handle (not sure how I was going to get the half child, but I’d figure that out later).  In some sense, Christ led me “where I did not want to go”…now with six children.  After we had two children, he changed my heart to desire and accept a third.  The fourth came “too early” for my taste…but what would my life be like without Jack? Then after the fourth, he opened my heart and desire again – and we welcomed Corinne.  But after moving to Atlanta, we sold all of our baby stuff, assuming we were “done” after five children.  Once again, Christ had a different plan.


Looking back on it now, I can see, at least partially, God’s plan in blessing us with so many children. He made a very impatient man at least somewhat more patient.  He reduced my tendency to fixate on material goods…because having six children requires one to let go of lots of things on one’s “wish list.”  He gave these children the wonderful blessing of multiple siblings, which I believe has made each of them more generous and more selfless.  Perhaps he has inspired other families to accept the gift of additional children.


There’s a funny thing about Christ leading you “where you do not want to go.”  After you get to that place, you realize that was the place for you all along…





  1. In your life, where has Christ led you “where you did not want to go”?  How did you respond?


  1. How can we teach children to respond to those more difficult callings from God?


  1. The first time Jesus asked Peter if he loved him “more than these others do.”  The second and third time he just asked him whether he loved him.  Why the change?


  1. Why did Jesus ask Peter three times?



FURTHER STUDY: Catechism and Ignatius Bible Study Notes




1822 Charity is the theological virtue by which we love God above all things for his own sake, and our neighbor as ourselves for the love of God. (1723)


Ignatius Bible Study notes:


21:15 more than these?:Peter is challenged to live up to his own words, since earlier he declared that even if the other disciples should fall away from Christ, his commitment would never falter (Mt 26:33). Feed my lambs:Jesus entrusts to Peter the task of shepherding his entire flock. This supreme leadership position over the Church gives him a unique share in the authority of Christ, who is still acknowledged by Peter as the “chief Shepherd” (1 Pet 5:4). It is important to recognize that no tension exists in the mind of Jesus between his own role as the “good shepherd” and the delegation of pastoral authority to Peter (Jn 10:11; CCC 553, 881). ‚óŹ Vatican I declared that in this episode Christ made Peter the visible head and chief pastor over the universal Church (Pastor aeternus, chap. 1). See note on Mt 16:13–20.

21:18 stretch out your hands:An allusion to Peter’s martyrdom by crucifixion. Tradition holds that it took place in Rome around a.d.67.

The Cougar Dads Club is open to all HSP men!  

The Dads Club offers HSP Dads an opportunity to interact and contribute through:

  • Periodic social activities - School kickoff social, Braves night, Pig Roast, and more!
  • Faith formation through bi-weekly Scripture reflections on the Sunday mass readings - our "Dads Cougar Convers(at)ions" (Friday mornings from 7:30-8 in the Vickery office at the Lower School)
  • Cougar Dads service day at HSP

Our biweekly newsletter - the Cougar Dad Cave - is designed to keep Dads appraised of Dads Club and Dad-oriented HSP activities, as well as provide ongoing faith formation through Scripture, the Church, and other media relevant for fathers.

Email Jason Neff, Cougar Dads Club leader at for more information.