Cougar Dad's Club

Cougar Dads Bible Study

Next meeting: Friday, October 18, 2019, 7:30-8:00am
Location: Holy Spirit Catholic Church, bride's room left of sanctuary

Questions?  Contact Jason Neff, or 785.383.0927

Study Notes for Friday (10/18/19)

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READ: Luke 18:1-8


And he told them a parable, to the effect that they ought always to pray and not lose heart. He said, “In a certain city there was a judge who neither feared God nor regarded man; and there was a widow in that city who kept coming to him and saying, ‘Vindicate me against my adversary.’ For a while he refused; but afterward he said to himself, ‘Though I neither fear God nor regard man, yet because this widow bothers me, I will vindicate her, or she will wear me out by her continual coming.’ ” And the Lord said, “Hear what the unrighteous judge says. And will not God vindicate his elect, who cry to him day and night? Will he delay long over them? I tell you, he will vindicate them speedily. Nevertheless, when the Son of man comes, will he find faith on earth?”



PERSONAL MEDITATION - Fr. John Bartunek, from The Better Part


Real Humility


"For he who will reward us on judgment day for our works and alms will even in this life listen mercifully to those who come to him in prayer combined with good works


– St. Cyprian of Carthage


Christ as Teacher


Jesus is politely telling us that we are weak pray-ers. He probably detected impatience behind the Pharisees’ question about when the Kingdom would come, an impatience we too are familiar with. We give up too easily; we approach God with less confidence than this determined widow had in approaching a crooked judge. We doubt God. We think that just because he doesn’t answer us in the way we expect him to, he isn’t answering us at all. That shows a lack of faith, a truncated vision of God. No prayer that we utter goes unheard. God is never out of his office; he’s never on vacation. He is longing for us to bombard him with our prayers. He is eagerly searching for hearts that trust him enough to ask him unceasingly for everything they need. He always answers our prayers, even when the answer is “no”.


On judgment day, one of our greatest regrets will be how little we prayed – prayer costs us nothing and can be done anywhere and anytime; it’s an investment that simply can’t go wrong, and yet we relegate it to a few minutes here and there” It’s like refusing to turn on the lights because we’re afraid they might not work, or because we have become oddly attached to the dark.





Men are typically “doers.”  When we see a problem, our intuitive reaction is to take action towards a solution.  This is typically a strength of ours; we can be decisive and spring into action rather than sitting around stewing about our problems.  However, our predilection to action can become a handicap when we encounter a situation that is completely out of our control or when the right course of action is truly unknowable.


It’s in these challenging situations that we can unfortunately turn to worry and/or impulsive (and imprudent) action.  Instead, we could look at these situations as unique opportunities to grow in our relationship with Christ through prayer.  How many times do we encounter a difficult situation and fail to ask God for help in prayer?  Or how about times when, in desperation, we turn to God in prayer, but his “response” doesn’t immediately present itself and we just forget it?  


In today’s Gospel, Jesus is telling us to ASK.  God wants us to participate in his action by having us ask him for help.  He wants to be generous.  But he also wants us to grow in relationship with him as he answers our immediate concerns.  And he knows that the more we pray, the better we will trust him and understand that His will is always what is best for us.


Men can be stubborn.  Let’s use that.  When you have a problem, be stubborn in prayer with God.  Ask until he answers.  He is always listening.





  1. Why are we less persistent in our prayers than the widow was with her suit?


  1. What things tend to hold us back from being perfectly docile to God’s will?  Jesus lived his whole life for us, for the Kingdom.  How can we better follow his example?


  1. How can we effectively relate this need for persistence in prayer to our children?



FURTHER STUDY: Catechism and Ignatius Bible Study Notes




2098 The acts of faith, hope, and charity enjoined by the first commandment are accomplished in prayer. Lifting up the mind toward God is an expression of our adoration of God: prayer of praise and thanksgiving, intercession and petition. Prayer is an indispensable condition for being able to obey God’s commandments. “[We] ought always to pray and not lose heart.” (2742)



Ignatius Bible Study notes:


18:1–14 Two parables on Christian prayer. The first teaches that we should pray continually (18:2–8), the second that we should pray humbly, asking God for mercy (18:9–14) (CCC 2098, 2613).

18:3 a widow: Widows were often powerless and vulnerable in ancient society, and many were supported by fellow Israelites (Deut 26:12). Both Jesus and Luke take a compassionate interest in their plight (2:37; 4:25–26; 7:12; 20:47; 21:3).


18:5 her continual coming: The parable encourages persistent prayer (18:1). As the widow pleaded for justice, so we should persevere in faith and tirelessly petition God for our needs (Rom 12:12; 1 Thess 5:17).


18:6 the unrighteous judge: His indifference to the widow’s distress was a violation of justice (Deut 27:19). The parable’s outcome is thus a mere shadow of God’s concern for us. If an unjust and callous judge will vindicate a persevering widow, the Father will much more come to the aid of his prayerful children (Sir 35:12–17).

The Cougar Dads Club is open to all Holy Spirit Prep men!  

The Dads Club offers an opportunity to interact and contribute through:

  • Periodic social activities - School kickoff social, Braves night, Pig Roast, and more!
  • Faith formation through biweekly Scripture reflections on the Sunday Mass readings - our "Dads Cougar Convers(at)ions" (Friday mornings from 7:30-8am in the Lower School Intermediate Bldg - main floor)
  • Cougar Dads service day at Holy Spirit Prep

Our biweekly newsletter - the Cougar Dad Cave - is designed to keep Dads appraised of Dads Club and Dad-oriented school activities, as well as provide ongoing faith formation through Scripture, the Church, and other media relevant for fathers.

Email Jason Neff, Cougar Dads Club leader at for more information.